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How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

Article Source: Dating Books For Men. Copyright 2008
Author: Stephen J. Carter

John Alexander is the author of How To Become An Alpha Male
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Have you just gone through a difficult break up with your girlfriend? Are you wondering how to get your ex girlfriend back? What you are probably looking for is the "how to get your ex back" bible known as The Magic Of Making Up, which I will get to shortly.

Virtually everyone experiences some kind of a break up sooner or later in life. In fact, for some people it is a regular occurrence! Most of them just try to move on, rather than look for a way to get an ex back. But if you prefer not to play the victim, and instead you are willing to put in some work to get back your ex, then there are options that you can pursue. As I said, practically everyone goes through breakups, but this does not mean you cannot get back together with your ex.

Far from it.

In fact, there is usually no good reason why you cannot get an ex back after you break up with her, provided that you know what steps are necessary to win your ex back. The first step to learning how to get an ex back is to determine exactly what happened to cause the break up in the first place. Even though you cannot wind back the clock, nor change what happened between the two of you, you can learn from any mistakes you may have made and try to grow from those experiences.

Your break up may have resulted from a single event, or it may have occurred due to behavior on your part that your ex could no longer put up with. No matter what the reason for the breakup, you need to figure out the exact difficulty so that you do not repeat the process and end up back where you are right now! You can get an ex back if you know how, but if you want to make it work between the two of you for the long haul, you need to address the cause of your earlier problems.

The next step in the process is to ensure that you are not perceived by her as a needy person. Guys usually feel as though they cannot live without their ex, but there is little point in demonstrating this to her. Instead, you should stay strong, and let your ex see that you are doing just fine by yourself. If you let everyone around you see your comfort and self confidence, then you will have a better chance of getting back together with your ex.

Trying to get back at your ex, or trying to make your ex jealous is almost guaranteed to backfire on you, so nix any thoughts in that department if they enter into your head. In fact, if you want to torpedo any chance that the two of you might reconcile and get back together, then go right ahead with this, because it will show your ex that she should simply move on because you certainly have already done just that. While you do want her to see that you are doing OK, you do not want this observation to inspire her to completely move on if your primary goal is to get back together with her. Let her see how strong and self confident you are, and she very well may feel inspired to get back together with you.

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So what can you do to go about getting her back? If you would like a detailed and down to earth step by step plan, the most populate title on the market today that addresses this subject is The Magic Of Making Up.

In the meantime, here are some guidelines. If you honestly believe that you and your ex are meant to be together, then you must to learn how to get her back. Learning how to get her back is not necessarily all that difficult, but it does take some thinking it through and planning out the steps if you really do want to get results.
  1. Though it may seem counterintuitive to the ultimate goal of rekindling the relationship, if you want to learn how to get her back you really need to begin by severing communication with her for a while. This can actually be very difficult to do, and it may even feel as though it is killing you, but with any luck it will be killing her even more! After a little time has passed she will begin to realize how much she really needs you, and how badly she misses you. Severing communication is one of the most important steps to rekindling things with your ex.
  2. Allow yourself to get over her. Strong emotions will only wear you down. If you want to get her back, you need to take some time to become emotionally controlled and calm. Women are repelled by men who seem desperate, clingy or needy (just as men are put off by women like this) so pull it together and deep six those feelings long before you try to draw her back in to your life.
  3. Flirt with a new acquaintance. This is another step which may seem counterintuitive, but it has its role in working to get your ex back. If she knows that you are doing it, conversing with other women can sometimes be almost too much for your ex to bear. Not only will this pay off for you because it reduces your stress, but it will also show your ex girlfriend that you are moving on. Either this will make her jealous, and cause her to realize how much she really does want to be with you, or it will have no effect at all - in which case you were unlikely to succeed anyway.
  4. Behave as if nothing is bothering you. That is, if you want to get her back, you need to play it cool. Your ex is not going to want to take you back if you are behaving as though you are depressed. Instead, you need to make every effort to ensure that you are behaving as though you are having a good time, and that you are past any break up depression. She needs to believe that everything is okay with you.
  5. Always look your best you can. Make sure that you dress to kill, and that you look your best at all times. That way, when she sets eyes on you again, she will no be able to resist you. Appearance plays a huge part in showing your ex that you are moving on. If you look great and you take the time to look your best, your ex will notice, and she will respond positively to you.
These are just the beginning steps in winning your ex back. And to be honest with you, these are not my ideas. I simply turned to T 'Dub' Jackson's The Magic Of Making Up to bring you the ideas found here. Check out his book if you want a complete step-by-step approach to how to get your ex girlfriend back.

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John Alexander is the author of
How To Become An Alpha Male
John Alexander, the author discussed in my How To Become An Alpha Male review, says that while most other dating books focus on WHAT to do to please the woman, the better approach is to concentrate instead on how to BECOME the man that women respond to.
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