Are You Making These Body Language Mistakes With Your Hands?Article Source: Dating Books For Men. Copyright 2008
Author: John Alexander
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You may not realize this, but what you do with your hands can destroy the attraction a woman feels for you, because the wrong hand movements communicate to her that you are a low-status, beta male.
Unfortunately, your hands can be very tough to manage because, when you feel nervous, the hardest thing in the world is to figure out what to do with your hands!
To improve your chances of success at both dating and seducing women, try not to make the following body language mistakes with your hands.
MISTAKE ONE. Displaying anxiety with your hands.
You do this when you:
1) Tear up napkins. 2) Make fists with your hands. 3) Sit on your hands. 4) Hold something and play with it. 5) Twiddle your fingers or thumbs. 6) Hold your hands unnaturally still.
Particularly when you may be feeling nervous, the last thing you should do is allow her to see that you feel that way.
Instead you want to project the idea that you are calm and in control. Nothing attracts women more than to see that the man is laid back and confident when engaing her.
MISTAKE TWO. Putting your fingers into your mouth.
If you bite your nails, or chew on your fingers, you are, say psychologists, doing the same thing infants are doing when they suck from their mother's breast.
For babies, breast feeding provides a form of comfort. On becoming toddlers, our thumbs replace our mother's nipple.
Later, as an adult, biting our thumbnail does the same. Have you ever noticed when you are out in public, that you often bite your nails when under pressure?
THE SOLUTION. Hold your hands relaxed on the table.
Rest your forearms on the surface of the table, and keep your arms open, allowing them to drop forward.
Keep your hands and arms open and relaxed. Usually this means you will have them 18 inches or so apart, with your palms facing each other, and fingers curved slightly upward.
Just as your palms are faced toward each other, they should also face the woman. Open palms suggest honesty, and that you are completely comfortable with yourself. Conversely, having the back of your hands facing the woman can often suggest that you are hiding something from her.
So, demonstrating your confidence can be as easy as controlling your hand movements. Just stop twiddling your thumbs and watch as the women begin to flock to you.
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B Y T H E S A M E A U T H O R . . .
is the author of
How To Become An Alpha Male
John Alexander, the author discussed in my How To Become An Alpha Male review, says that while most other dating books focus on WHAT to do to please the woman, the better approach is to concentrate instead on how to BECOME the man that women respond to.
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