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How To Have Sex On The First Date

Article Source: Dating Books For Men. Copyright 2008
Author: John Alexander

John Alexander is the author of How To Become An Alpha Male
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Over the past two and a half decades I have dated literally thousands of women and been to bed with hundreds of them. As a result, I have learned there is nothing you can do to GUARANTEE you will have sex with any particular woman.

That said, there are a few simple things you can do to dramatically INCREASE YOUR ODDS of going all the way with her on the very first night of your relationship.

1. Meet her in a non-traditional location.

By this I mean, do not take her to a fancy restaurant or do anything that she might associate with a typical "date." If you do, it will put her into the same "make him wait" mindset that she likely adopted with the previous ten guys who took her out for a fancy meet and eat date.

Instead, agree to meet her some place informal, like at a coffee shop, or even a cheap diner for lunch. When the meal is over, do not make a big deal out of who pays for what. Why? Because the last ten guys she dated likely paid for her meal thinking, as was blatantly obvious to her, that this gesture would help get them laid.

As an alpha male, you should never do anything simply because you are "hoping to get laid." This kind of behavior reeks of desperation and kills any attraction that a woman feels for you.

The more attractive guy is one who, by assumption, gets laid all the time, so to him sex is no big deal. If a woman desires his attention, she will have to earn it. In other words, this guy is a challenge for her, not a sure thing.

2. Have the proper mindset during the date.

You want to be both relaxed and feeling sexual. (To help get yourself into a sexual state, consider watching porn before the date, but never masturbate.) And it is important to feel relaxed. Not nervous.

To become sexual, a woman needs to feel relaxed and horny. It is therefore important that you also feel that way yourself, because studies show that when two people share a rapport, they will eventually match emotional states with each other.

So when you are chilling with the girl, you want to feel deeply relaxed, but also horny, and then engage her in conversation about neutral subjects until you see notice signs from her that indicate she too is getting relaxed and horny.

3. Get her alone with you.

Say you and the girl hit it off in the coffee shop, and you then take her to a bar for a quick drink. Things go well there also. The conversation is great. You notice signs of her increasing sexual arousal and an openness to intimacy.

Signs of a woman's deepening sexual attraction to you include: - Sitting with her inner thigh exposed to you. - Fidgeting with her clothes. Maybe she even unfastens a button of her blouse. - She engages in "triangle gazing." This means she will look at one of your eyes, then the other, and then at your mouth. - You notice her glimpsing at your chest and even at your crotch.

Of course, you cannot just say, "Let's go back to my place and have sex." When you are on a first date with a woman, if you verbalize anything sexual it will kill the mood for her and result in you going home alone.

Instead, come up with an innocent excuse that will allow the two of you to go back to your place. (For example: "You should come listen to my 'Best of the 80s' CD" or "I'm blown away that you are so into art. Seriously, I have a painting in my living room that I would love to get your opinion about.")

Because the two of you have an "innocent" reason to be alone together, you will not set off alarm bells in her mind which scream, "Uh oh! I not sure I want to be a seen as a slut..."

When the two of you are alone at your place, then you can set the scene for the seduction.

It may take several more hours for the woman to feel comfortable enough with you at your house, so you will need to bide your time and be patient.

Sit together on your couch and watch a movie together. Slowly escalate. Hold hands, stroke her hair, and so on.

Women are like irons, sexually. They heat up slowly. Keep this in mind and do not rush things. This way you will maximize your chances of having sex with her on the first date.

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B Y   T H E   S A M E   A U T H O R . . .
John Alexander is the author of
How To Become An Alpha Male
John Alexander, the author discussed in my How To Become An Alpha Male review, says that while most other dating books focus on WHAT to do to please the woman, the better approach is to concentrate instead on how to BECOME the man that women respond to.
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