Meet Women SecretsArticle Source: Dating Books For Men. Copyright 2008
Author: Joseph Matthews
S P O T L I G H T
is the author of The Art Of Approaching
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Here are a few easy to follow steps you can use to meet women that makes the process of meeting women fun and easy!
I have a question...
(And be honest now, otherwise I won't be able to help you!)
Is it hard for you to meet women? Is your fear of meeting women paralyzing you from taking action, causing you to continue to be lonely and alone?
Well, if that sounds like you, don't worry too much. I'm going to give you some great advice you can start using right now to not only meet tons of women, but to also destroy your fear and doubt, and take control of your love life!
You may be under the false assumption that meeting women is supposed to come naturally to you. After all - we're men! Aren't we just "supposed" to know how to do this naturally?
Despite what you might think and what others may tell you, the fact is that us men are not born already knowing how to naturally meet and attract women. (Believe me, I wish that WAS the case, but its not, unfortunately.)
How to meet women is something you LEARN.
You must LEARN how to meet women, just like you have to learn to speak, walk, or do long division.
This is a SKILL. Skills don't come naturally, they have to be learned!
If you don't currently know how to meet women and you find it difficult - don't worry! There is NOTHING wrong with you. The fact is you just haven't had enough experience yet to make meeting women something that's fun and easy.
Sadly, many guys have a fear of meeting women that keeps them locked up inside their house on Saturday nights. And most of them will never take the steps they need to truly overcome that fear.
That's because they don't realize the power that fear has over them! And they rationalize their fear of meeting women by imagining all of the bad things that could happen.
Some guys have such low self-esteem that they believe a girl they're interested in will laugh in their face, reject them outright, or just simply tell them off. And if they're really unlucky, she may throw her drink in their face and get beaten up by her boyfriend!
If this sounds like you, then I have news for you: You are actually TRAINING yourself to NOT approach women! You're giving yourself reasons to give into your fears and not take any action.
Bottom line: You are practicing FAILURE.
Look - truth be told, most of these fears you have hardly EVER happen in reality!
All these fears stem from poor experiences you may have had when you were young (junior high or middle school age) or you picked them off of television or movies and think they could actually apply to your real life.
It's sad that so many men allow fears like these to shape their attitudes and beliefs about meeting and dating women.
In contrast, there are other men out there who were fortunate enough to have positive experiences with girls early on in their development. These experiences helped banish irrational fears about meeting women, which helped set them up for a lot of success with women as they got older.
But even if you started off on the wrong foot in seventh grade, you can still take control of your fears of meeting women. You don't have to be in high school to become a superstar with the ladies!
You're just going to have to re-learn what you know about how to talk to women, and you'll have to be willing to examine and change your current beliefs and attitudes that hold you back when it comes to meeting women.
This is something that is extremely difficult for most guys to do. It's easy to say you want to learn how to meet women, but the hard part is actually taking the action necessary to do so. You need to actually WANT to change!
Do you want to be the kind of guy who let's every opportunity with women pass him by because he's too scared to take it?
When an opportunity with an attractive lady presents itself, take it! Say something to her, even if you don't know what you should say. Just start talking.
You can ask for her opinion about something. You can ask for directions. You can playfully tease her about something she's doing or wearing.
At least make an effort to take an interest in her and be curious about who she is as a person. Pay her a genuine and sincere compliment! What do you have to lose?
Don't get hung up on what you're going to say, just go over and talk to her. Don't give yourself time to talk yourself out of it. Make the decision to act and follow through. (If you need to, memorize a few interesting stories about your life if you need something to talk about.)
Understand that the simple act of walking up to a girl and talking to her makes you a winner! Because you're able to do something that 80% of the other guys out there would be too afraid to do! Even if you strike out, or fail to get the phone number or a date, you're still a winner. The simple act of being able to meet any woman will greatly increase your chances of finding that one special girl, and in the end, isn't that the real goal?
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B Y T H E S A M E A U T H O R . . .
is the author of
The Art Of Approaching
Joseph Matthews, the author discussed in my The Art Of Approaching review, believes 10 percent of males enjoy 90 percent of the success when it comes to dating women. His aim is to put YOU into that 10 percent using 350+ pages of solid dating advice.
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