Body Language In The Alpha Male - The Number One SecretArticle Source: Dating Books For Men. Copyright 2008
Author: John Alexander
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Observe any man who enjoys high status - be it Brad Pitt, George Clooney, or the CEO of the place at which you work - and you will likely notice how he moves differently than the rest of us. Observe the way he gives off vibes that tell the people around him that he is hot stuff, and because of this, women will get soaking wet over him.
You can also create this same aura which will make you attractive to women.
Have you ever noticed the way your friends tend to look when they are nervous? They will look down at the ground with their arms crossed. They will fidget, with their voices cracking and their eyes bugging out.
And when YOU give off this same kind of body language yourself, women will not want to be around you.
Now, think about those successful guys. They have got some great body language going on and the girls are all over them.
So, what do you think the number one secret is that separates those high status guys from the low status ones? You have probably guessed it. When it comes to social situations, the alpha males are relaxed and in control.
Take note: relaxation is THE most important mental state for you to achieve.
With this observation in mind, here are a few pointers to help you develop the required mindset and body language of an alpha male (and if you think these are easy, you are right - you can make manifest change as soon as tonight and have even the hottest girls clamoring for your attention):
1. Never allow yourself to feel worried. Just let your worries go. Problems can never be solved through the application of worry anyway. So suck it up, and stop thinking about what might go wrong. Just live your life.
Now, clearly what I just told you is easier said than done. You have spent your entire life up until now dwelling on thoughts that cause you worry.
But what exactly is this emotion that we call "worry"? If you think about it, worry is simply the fear of what MIGHT happen tomorrow. Basically you are punishing yourself by feeling upset before anything bad has actually happened. Needless to say, it makes no logical sense when you worry about things.
So the way to improve the way other people view you, though your body language, is to avoid thinking those worrisome thoughts. Identify them for what they are - toxic fuel for your emotional state, and just - let them go.
2. The next strategy to help you relax is to breathe through your abdomen rather than through your chest.
When you breathe, try to imagine that you are pulling air down into your stomach. Feel your belly rise and fall as you breathe.
3. Avoid all nonverbal behaviors that promote the opposite of relaxation. These include:
- Hunching your shoulders. - Wrinkling your forehead. - Fidgeting with your hands and/or legs. - Tightening your facial muscles.
4. Try to relax all your muscles and slow down a little all of your movements.
Alpha males typically move without hurrying, as if they are in control of time itself. Beta males, on the other hand, are nervous and make jerky movements. Try to imagine that you are walking through a swimming pool, so that your movements are forced to be slow and fluid.
5. Relax your eyes and eyelids.
Beta males tend to hold their eyelids wide open because of how nervous they are. Their eyes dart all around the place. Instead, let your eyelids rest. Look straight ahead. Only give something your attention if it interests you. While you are going about your business, do this affirmation to yourself, "I am sexual, I am relaxed, and I am in control." Repeat this several times, allowing the truth of the statement to settle into your subconscious.
6. If someone wants requires your attention, move your head slowly in their direction.
A trait common to many beta males is that of being too eager to please. When somebody calls their name, their heads will spin toward the person unnaturally fast. As an alpha male this is exactly the kind of behavior that you want to avoid.
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B Y T H E S A M E A U T H O R . . .
is the author of
How To Become An Alpha Male
John Alexander, the author discussed in my How To Become An Alpha Male review, says that while most other dating books focus on WHAT to do to please the woman, the better approach is to concentrate instead on how to BECOME the man that women respond to.
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