How to Get a Woman to Treat You GoodArticle Source: Dating Books For Men. Copyright 2008
Author: John Alexander
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I am sure you know the scenario. You start dating a woman. Then, at the end of your first date with her, all you get is a peck on the cheek.
The second date comes around, and you get a kiss on the mouth. Third date - now you hold hands with her. It is a very slow process.
For the life of you, you cannot understand why it has to take you so long to have sex with this woman. After all, you have been buying her meals. You have even splurged on some pretty decent flowers for her.
Really, you are being incredibly nice to this woman. So what the heck is the problem? Why isn't she excited about the idea of having sex with you?
The answer is that it comes down to human motivation. People do the things that they think will bring them a reward. Conversely, they will avoid any behavior that is likely to result in punishment.
So the reason a guy often has trouble getting laid is because he is rewarding her bad behavior. A chick will lead him on and then make it abundantly clear that there will be no sex that night. And yet the guy goes on to reward her by cuddling with her!
The better course of action would be to punish her bad behavior by being a lot less interested in the prospect of cuddling with her. Never underestimate the power of getting up from the couch and simply walking out the door.
Remember, to maximize your enjoyment of life and have women be attracted to you, you need to be an alpha male. This means being powerful. So you need to make sure that you get treated the way you deserve to be treated.
Did she do something (like have sex with you) that deserves a reward? If so, go ahead and do something nice for her. Take her on a date to a fancy restaurant. Put filet mignon on her plate and pour her a glass of Don Perignon (if you have the money).
Does your date merely string you along, telling you the things that she would do for you if only she did not have a boyfriend? Then withdraw your attention from her, and go talk to other girls.
If you frame your behavior towards women in terms of punishment and reward, you can then expect to be treated the way you deserve to be (or else move onto another woman who WILL treat you right).
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B Y T H E S A M E A U T H O R . . .
is the author of
How To Become An Alpha Male
John Alexander, the author discussed in my How To Become An Alpha Male review, says that while most other dating books focus on WHAT to do to please the woman, the better approach is to concentrate instead on how to BECOME the man that women respond to.
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