Online Dating Book Or Dating Success?Article Source: Dating Books For Men. Copyright 2008
Author: John Alexander
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is the author of How To Become An Alpha Male
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Online dating can seem a very attractive option for men who are looking to find a mate. But the process can be time-consuming and inefficient. If you are a guy who is thinking about online dating, I am going to show you why you might want to think again, and consider a better way to your dating success
I do not need to tell you that your top priority when it comes to finding a potential mate is to begin with a selection of promising prospects of the opposite sex. Because of this, online dating seems to offer a straightforward way to get started. You sign up to an online dating service, you fill out your basic dating profile, and you see whether the service can match you up immediately with a list of prospects.
But often what men discover is that the women on the other end of those profiles are not always the people they appear to be. I am not suggesting that they are imitating someone else, or that their profile is faked just so that the woman can advertise some other kind of service (though that can certainly happen). What I am saying is that online dating profiles tend to be misleading. It is a consequence of the fact that the entities that fill out those online forms are real human beings.
We all wish to be seen in our best light by the opposite sex, and women even more so than men. Because of this, and the ever-growing competition to find a mate online, the online dating persona tends to get distorted away from the real person, and more towards someone who at least gets contacted because of the appealing content that ends up in their dating profile.
As a guy, you will be most likely be interested foremost in how attractive your potential mate appears to you. Only after you get physical attractiveness out of the way will you settle down and investigate what it is that the lady wants to tell you about herself. Unfortunately, photographs in online dating profiles are usually selected on the basis of how extraordinary they make the person in the photograph feel when looking at the picture - and they feel that way because the picture gives them a completely different view than what they see in the mirror!
So you will have to take those online pictures with a grain of salt. Another serious problem is that of geography. There are a lot of attractive ladies out there, but unless they live in your neck of the neighborhood, why would you want to expend a great deal of effort to seek them out as a prospective mate? You cannot easily get to know a person for whom face-to-face interaction requires that you carve out some real traveling time from your week.
Given that your prospect really needs to live locally, what is the chance that you will find her on your particular online dating service, and not on one of the other hundred or so that she might be signed up for - if indeed she even thinks that online dating is a sensible approach to finding the man of her dreams?
There is a much better way to finding the woman who is right for you, and it does not involve online dating at all. In fact, it is based on an approach that has worked for men for thousands of years. You simply need to become the man that women in your neighborhood are already looking for. Then you step outside your door and start advertising your availability. The rest happens automatically. But the devil, of course, is in the details.
In my book How To Become An Alpha Male
I think I have done a pretty good job of reminding us guys what it is that women are looking for in a man, and how you should go about convincing them that you have it. Because once they become convinced that you have what they are looking for, they will take all the action that is necessary to make you their man. You only have to apply the brakes a little so that they do not end up running over you in their mad stampede to acquire your approval.
If you want to find a review of my book by the owner of this dating books review site, and learn why he has rated it so highly, click on that orange button just beneath my article. Then, perhaps instead of buying an online dating book, you can think about grabbing a resource that is a LOT more likely to secure you the kind of dating success that you are hoping for. I have helped thousands of guys attain this goal, and I know that I can help you too.
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B Y T H E S A M E A U T H O R . . .
is the author of
How To Become An Alpha Male
John Alexander, the author discussed in my How To Become An Alpha Male review, says that while most other dating books focus on WHAT to do to please the woman, the better approach is to concentrate instead on how to BECOME the man that women respond to.
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