Guess What? You Are Not So Special!
Article Source: Dating Books For Men. Copyright 2008
Author: Joseph Matthews
S P O T L I G H T
Joseph Matthews is the author of
The Art Of Approaching
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I would like to share with you some of the emails I have received from fans of my site. These are messages that I find quite troubling...
Hi Joseph,
If I was to learn these conversation openers of yours and try them, women would instantly smell that these are NOT my own lines. They would reject me even faster than normal.
Honestly Joseph, if I were to try one of these openers on a woman she would instantly laugh and reject me because she could tell that I was using canned lines.
This e-mail is hardly an isolated instance. I get scores of messages from guys who say things like:
"I like your tactics, but they won't work for me."
"If I tried something like this, I'd get laughed at and rejected."
"If I actually approached a woman with this material, I'd spontaneously combust, scanners-style."
Well, you get the idea...
Whenever I e-mail these guys back and ask if they have actually *bothered* to try out my techniques, the answer is always:
"No. I just KNOW it won't work."
Well, for those of you who think this way, I would like to let you in on a little secret...
YOU ARE NOT A SPECIAL CASE!
Seriously, most men who find it hard to approach women think that no matter what techniques they study, they will NOT work for them because their own case is unique and different from that of every other guy out there.
Well, I put it to you that you are dead wrong.
What I have learned through experience is that most guys are not that different from each other, just as most women are not so different from each other. A friend of mine summed this up best when he said:
"All women are different. But not THAT different."
The same goes for us guys.
The truth is, we all experience the same fears and insecurities. We just deal with them differently. Most guys deal with these by shutting down and not even attempting to improve their lot.
Instead, they opt for the easy way out and simply blame the world around them, other women, their circumstances, and so on.
These guys even blame themselves, preferring to beat themselves up rather than take responsibility and IMPROVE their circumstance.
There is a name for this kind of guy, and it is:
L-O-S-E-R
But the thing of it is, they change this. All it requires is a little effort on their part to CHANGE THEIR LIFE FOR THE BETTER!
In my book, "The Art Of Approaching", I teach SPECIFIC tactics you can use to take the bull by the horns and improve your social life.
I won't tell you that it's going to be easy. It's you who is going to have to do the work. But I'll guide you as you take this journey to improve your life!
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B Y T H E S A M E A U T H O R . . .
Joseph Matthews is the author of
The Art Of Approaching
Joseph Matthews, the author discussed in my The Art Of Approaching review, believes 10 percent of males enjoy 90 percent of the success when it comes to dating women. His aim is to put YOU into that 10 percent using 350+ pages of solid dating advice.
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