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Secrets To Approaching Women

Article Source: Dating Books For Men. Copyright 2008
Author: Joseph Matthews

Joseph Matthews is the author of The Art Of Approaching
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Every man out there should learn how to approach women, because if he doesn't, he is missing out on the vital first step for finding the girl of his dreams and forming a relationship with her...

It's important that you know how to approach a girl the right way. Let's go over some tactics that will help you to be more successful than the average guy.

We've all had situations where we approached a girl with we thought was a smooth line, but she immediately rejected us before we could even open our mouths.

Know this - getting shot down has little to do with what you were going to say or what your intentions were. It's all about how you go about actually approaching your target. It's important to do this right the first time, because it's hard to recover when you make a mistake right off the bat.

The most important thing to remember when approaching women is to come off as NON-THREATENING and to not, under any circumstances, telegraph your interest in them too early.

This is about by-passing a girl's defenses and flying in "under the radar."

You have to understand that most attractive women get hit on CONSTANTLY, so they've trained themselves to simply reject guys at the first sign they're out to pick them up.

This is because women get hit on SO MUCH by men, they just don't want to deal with yet another guy coming up and wasting their time.

Approaching women can be both easy AND fun when you know how to do it RIGHT.

So what's the right way to approach a woman?

First of all - DO NOT HESITATE.

If you hesitate and let the opportunity pass you by, you're never going to experience success. Giving yourself time to talk yourself out of approaching a girl will never get you anywhere, so it's important you act quickly and JUST DO IT.

Secondly, know what you're going to start the conversation with BEFORE you approach the girl. This will make meeting women much easier because you don't have to spend time thinking of what to say before you feel comfortable walking up to meet her.

When it comes to a situation like this, you should probably have a good, proven "pick up line" memorized that will help start a conversation.

But don't confuse the term "pick up line" with sleazy saying like "Nice shoes, let's have sex!" The goal here is to be NON-THREATENING, remember?

Great pick up lines simply engage women in innocent conversation. So asking her opinion on something and then talking about it is always preferable to a sleazy or funny line that you've seen on TV.

An important tip you should be aware of is to always approach a woman at an angle instead of charging towards her like you're going to war! When you approach at an angle, it's much less confrontational and you're going to subconsciously put the woman more at ease than if you approached her head-on.

Remember: great pick ups can only happen when the girl is comfortable with you. That's why it's so important for YOU to feel comfortable when you're talking to girls!

If you feel uncomfortable approaching women, the best way to build your comfort level is to go out and practice meeting as many women as you can until you GET comfortable with it!

The sad fact is, you're not going to get good at approaching women if all you do is sit around reading about it and studying it like a test. If you want to get good and have success, you actually have to go out and DO IT so you can build your experience level. (The good news - it gets easier the more you do it!)

If you're worried about being rejected, just look at it as a game. The ONLY thing you're doing is approaching women. You're not asking her out, you're not trying to get her into bed, your only goal is to carry on some type of conversation.

That's all you need to do!

See how many girls you can talk to in one night, and keep trying to beat your score.

Finally, use a "time constraint" when approaching women. This is as simple as telling her you've only got a minute to talk to her because you've got to get back to your friends or whatever you're doing.

You want to do this because if she feels this approach is just a "momentary" distraction, and you're not trying to "impose" yourself on her, she'll be more willing to engage you in your approach.

Don't worry about putting a time limit on yourself. Once the conversation picks up, the girl will forget about your time constraint and you can talk to her as long as you want. Remember, the goal here is just to get the conversation started, and a good time constraint will help you do that!

In the world of dating, it all boils down to a numbers game. The more women you meet, the better your chances of finding your soul mate.

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B Y   T H E   S A M E   A U T H O R . . .
Joseph Matthews is the author of
The Art Of Approaching
Joseph Matthews, the author discussed in my The Art Of Approaching review, believes 10 percent of males enjoy 90 percent of the success when it comes to dating women. His aim is to put YOU into that 10 percent using 350+ pages of solid dating advice.
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