Using Body Language To Seduce A WomanArticle Source: Dating Books For Men. Copyright 2008
Author: John Alexander
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According to university researchers, an estimated 70 to 90 percent of human communication is non-verbal. This means that, primarily, it is your body language that reveals your internal emotional state to others. Whether the parent of a close friend has just died, or whether they just got promoted to a better paying position in their job - these things you can tell by simply observing their body language.
So, if you are a man who is trying to pick up and seduce women, you need to be mindful of what it is you are communicating to women non-verbally.
Body language consists, in part, of the following elements:
- Your movements. These should be nonchalant - you should move as though you are so fabulously successful that there is never a good reason for you to rush, nor even try to impress anybody with your presence. Move through life doing what you desire, and assume that others will follow you.
- The displacement of your body. Be expansive. Your arms and legs should be spread out. Do not be afraid to simply take up more space.
- Your voice. For best effect, your voice should have a calm, soothing, and commanding tone to it. Do not speak fast, nor strain your voice.
- Your face. Try to keep the muscles in your face relaxed. Do not tense your jaw, and only occasionally should you frown or wrinkle your brow.
- Your shoulders. Keep these relaxed, the way they would be if you just got a massage. Do not raise them up the way a nervous person would do.
I would even say that your body language is more important than anything you have to say, because if your body language does not match up with what you are telling a woman, then you will not succeed with her.
This is important, because if you tell a woman stories that project confidence, but at the same time you are slumping over and folding your arms, then you are going to come across as fake.
I have, on more than one occasion, picked up women merely by using my body language. Two months ago I stopped by a coffee shop that I visit regularly. I lounged on the couch, and spread my arms out, putting my feet up on the table.
I wanted to convey the idea that I felt as comfortable in that environment as if I were in my own home lounging on my own couch. I wanted to project the same degree of confidence I would have enjoyed had I owned the coffee shop.
The result of doing this was that a girl sitting near me put down her book and began engaging me in small talk.
(Every time an attractive girl you have never met before starts a conversation with you, ALWAYS assume that she is attracted to you - since women generally will not risk the whole male-female dynamic with a complete stranger, unless they feel a degree of attraction.)
This conversation went on for a time, and I got her phone number. Later that night I called her, and a few days later we met and end up at her place several hours later, where I spent the night. (We eventually had sex the next morning.)
The important point is that her initial attraction for me, and her willingness to approach, stemmed from my correct use of body language.
Of course, body language is never enough on its own. You must also have an internal alpha male mentality that matches your body language.
But make no mistake about this - if your body language projects confidence, your mood will shift to also become more confident. Ever noticed how when you are walking with a spring in your step, you feel more upbeat? Same thing.
In the same way, when you cast your eyes downward and you drag your feet, you will feel depressed. Your mindset follows the body language that you adopt.
So, be an alpha male with both your mindset AND your body language. Be inside a woman's personal space. Also, it is OK to be sexual and interested in her. But at the same time be neither needy, nor desperate, for her attention. Be comfortable and enjoy yourself, and she will too.
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B Y T H E S A M E A U T H O R . . .
is the author of
How To Become An Alpha Male
John Alexander, the author discussed in my How To Become An Alpha Male review, says that while most other dating books focus on WHAT to do to please the woman, the better approach is to concentrate instead on how to BECOME the man that women respond to.
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